When I’m in blog land or jumping on Twitter (Facebook free since 2013!), I find it humorous when I hear a parent complaining that they cannot find time to lift weights, run, do yoga, etc. It’s not because I’m a hater, it’s because it sounds like the parents I speak of are going to transform into a slob overnight if they can’t find time to do what they want. Those darn kids, they can really take up your free time!
Holy crap people. Having kids means sacrifice. Well, it’s supposed to anyway. My wife and I both work during the day so when we have our son in the evening, we enjoy spending those four to five hours each day with him. Even if he throws tantrums. Even if he throws blocks at my head. We take turns getting daily chores done, but we are always falling behind on a few tasks. It’s not because we have a ton of things to do, it is because we would rather sit on the couch and read a book with our son. I sit on the floor so much with my son I find myself sitting on the floor when I’m alone watching television. We have fun with him and he has fun with us. We are both there for him as much as life allows.
Before this post turns into an annoying rant, I’ll pump the brakes and have some fun regarding the first two paragraphs. I’ll recall a moment in time when my wife and I were a couple, then compare that moment to a current situation now that we are a family. Here I go:
August 2011 – My wife and I played tennis two or three nights a week.
August 2016 – My wife and I are weak from playing with our son two to three hours a night.
All of 2012 – I would lift weights in the basement using my new bench that my wife bought for me.
All of 2016 – My wife bought many things for our son in 2015 and stacked many items on top of my weight bench. I think I can see it down there again since I moved some boxes from that area of the basement.
Most of 2012 – I would run around our neighborhood three to four nights a week during the warmer months. Nothing crazy, about 10-15 miles per week.
Most of 2016 – I run around our yard with my son three to four nights a week during the warmer months. It’s crazy, he’ll circle the house 10-15 times per night.
As I mentioned in some of my other posts, my wife makes the money and I find work that fits into our schedule. I don’t make much money, but I rarely work weekends. I don’t have a prestigious title at my job, but my job allows me to see my family every day. In my first year of employment at my new job, I’ll have 21 paid days off. In America, many people can work 20 years or more at a company and not get 21 paid days off. These days with a young son growing up before my eyes, I’ll take time over money.
When my son gets older, I’ll work myself back into a decent looking shape. I look forward to turning my man boobs back into fresh elderly pecs. I know my abs are still in there somewhere, but I have more important responsibilities to attend to right now. I’ll find my abs in 2021 or 2022.
When I was under age 25 I was chasing my dreams. Between 25 and 34, I was chasing a career. From 34 to 39, I was chasing the money. Now at 40, I’m chasing my son. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.